This isn’t vegan related, but I don’t know how to handle this situation.
I’m 18 weeks pregnant and have our anatomy scan at the end of the month. We found out the gender for baby #1 but my boyfriend does NOT want to find out the gender for baby #2 and I really want to know.
I mentioned that I can just find out and not tell anyone, including him, and he got super sad.
I also mentioned that I can have the tech write the gender and seal it up for me so he won’t find out and he didn’t like that either.
He’s now trying to bribe me to not find out LOL.
Has anyone been in this situation? And how did you handle it or would handle it?
That’s a good idea,if she really wants to be specific,but then you’ll find out anyways if she gives those gifts at the baby shower. I got my niece an airplane toy that you pull and it does a vibration thing. It was one of her favorite toys,so gender stuff kinda bothers me but I understand that’s just not how our society functions.
I always wanted a surprise but my husband was so adamant he didn’t want a boy that I asked for the gender to be revealed at 10.5 weeks at the genetic testing because I didn’t want him to be disappointed at the birth and detract from my happiness. I’m having a boy, he was disappointed but has got over it now. However, now I know what the sex is, I can’t imagine not knowing! And if I ever had another one, I know I couldn’t wait for 9 months to find out!
Mine was opposite. I didn’t want to find out with either. My husband did. We found out the first and decided it was fair to not find out the second. He just had to know though. It really upset me because I wanted to be able to see his reaction when our baby was born as to the gender surprise. Him knowing messed it all up for me because I always wondered if he would slip up. I ended up finding out and was upset about it and still am. I think you should respect that he wants it to be a surprise for both of you since you got to find out the first time.
We were both dead set on finding out, but now have changed our minds. We have heard from labor and delivery nurses that many women labor better when they don’t know, and have seen that families can be less intrusive and judgemental when they don’t know. Same with the name. You also save more money when you don’t know because you don’t splurge on every adorable pair of suspenders or dress you see. It took me a few weeks but I am now very happy about not finding out.
I found out with my son. I knew in my gut from 6 weeks that it was a boy, but I wanted it confirmed at the anatomy scan. I was single and trying to fix things with his father, and amongst all the uncertainty I needed something I could be sure of and plan for. Finding out it was a boy just ended in an argument about circumcision (I didn’t want one, he did). For the next baby, I will keep it a surprise.
Don’t find out. It’s the best!! We’ve got 2 kiddos and pregnant with #3, haven’t found out with any of them. We had a boy first and a girl second, there is nothing more amazing in the world then wondering and guessing for 9 moths to have all your questions answered when you get to meet your new little human. You’ve had it your way once, let hubby have it his way this time. You’ll love it too in the end. Congrats and good luck!
In a world where most people know everything and very little is sacred, I can tell you from the few people I know who have not found out, you will not regret not finding out. What more beautiful moment is thereto find out then when that baby enters the world! It’s incredible and sad so many will never feel this. I have had friends not find out for a first and and then find out gender for a second and really regret it. That magic moment of revelation at birth is lost if you know. My partner is also really anti gender stereotyping and says the only thing you can “prepare” when you find out gender are gender assumptions… which I think is also a great point? We are 23 weeks with twins and I am super curious but happy to wait. It’s so exciting! Once you decide to wait it’s actually pretty easy and fun to predict! All my siblings waited.